Things have gotten a fair bit easier for me since I started to think of my energy like a currency I was investing. A few months ago I spent my energy like I spend my salary – frivolously! Just joking about the salary part, I try to be smart there which begs the question, why don’t I treat my energy in the same way?
As an almost-30-year-old now I think a lot more about what I spend my money on than I did ten years ago that is for sure (not always, I am prone to the odd bout of retail therapy here and there) but I definitely could not say the same for my energy.
By energy, I mean the time I give to certain shiz. The time I give to work, to worrying, to my anxious thoughts, to my family, to my friends, to my partner. We’re constantly spending energy all day everyday but are we really having those ‘do I need to spend this’ conversations with ourselves the same way we do before we ‘checkout’ from our favourite online stores? Probably not. Why?
I think sometimes we can see our energy as limitless; it’s just this never-ending source that we can conjure up from nowhere. Even those people who we envision as superheroes (rightly so) like doctors and nurses need to replenish their stores every now and again. I’ll put it simply, we can’t do everything at once.
We need to start looking at our energy as an investment. If we did a marathon would we then think it’s a good idea to take on a 5k that evening and a round or two of heavy weight-lifting? Probably not. When we give our all to work from 9-5pm do we think twice about supporting friends, family, going to the gym, studying for that qualification etc in the evening? No, we do it.
We need to invest our energy in places where we will see a good return. I’ve learnt this the hard way this year. I was giving my all to a certain part of my life and wasn’t getting anything back, in the end I spoke to my therapist and she told me to just give enough energy to get me by. So i did. I now give enough energy to get through the day, do my best and then I can spend the rest of my energy in places where I do get a good return, like my family, friends, partner and hobbies.
Our energy is like a currency, we need to decide how much we’re going to invest in which piggybank each and every day, week and year. We also need to leave enough in our banks for a rainy day, when you might need to give a little extra.
Do you think you’ll rethink your priorities and where you spend your energy after reading this post? Let me know your thoughts in the comments below!